The Big Talks

Back in March Justin started asking me about when he was a baby and he was really curious about whose tummy he was in. He said, "Mom I was in Elena's tummy". Oh goodness that came from out of nowhere. We were in the car on our way to a birthday party and I had the option of either ignoring his statement or telling him straightforward. No matter what books I had read or words from the professionals I memorized I was not prepared for that. So I just told him, his story, sparing details. And then he went about asking, What happens when our car crashes into another car?, What happens if I don't take a nap?, What happens if I forget to eat my sweet snack? and question after question.

Fast Forward to today:

Justin: Mom, I wished I was in your tummy
Me: Why?
Justin: Because I like you and I would be a baby like Brett, he was a funny baby.
Me:Oh...(and go on)
Justin: And I would already be here and you didn't have to go get me and you wouldn't have to wait for papers.
Me: I know Justin. But you are here now and that is all that matters right now. I am glad you are here and no more papers.

And then he happily goes into some other conversation about what happened at school much like our other serious conversations. I wonder what triggers his little mind to say these statements at the most random times. I wonder how much this will affect him later on in his life? Will he accept it or will he be angry? Will he know that I am on his side and I don't want him to hurt? Does he know I want answers too??

(Foster Mom's name changed)